Do you remember the claymation of the classic song “Rudolph the Red Nosed Reindeer”? Do you remember the “Island of Misfit Toys” in the story? Well, Rudolph and Hermey (the elf who wants to be a dentist) feel that because of their strange and unusual abilities, they were considered misfits. The venture on a journey where they encounter Yukon Cornelius (a gold digger who licks his metal tool), they run away from the beastly character “The Abominable Monster” and sing sad songs of how out of place they are in their society.
After some time, they find this island filled with toys. However, these toys are what children called “misfits”. They had obvious problems because their builder wasn’t careful. There was a polka-doted elephant, a train with square wheels and who could ever forget Charlie-in-the-box. All of these toys felt that they were not ever going to be loved because of their defects. Both sets of characters are just like you and I.
Many people today feel there is something wrong with them. Maybe they aren’t as pretty as the another or maybe we aren’t as rich as our friends. Possibly we have physical defects or mental problems. No matter what our problems are, we consider ourselves misfits. Unfortunately, we think that society won’t like us because of our defects. Maybe they will see them and make fun of us just like all the other reindeer did with Rudolph. Life doesn’t have to be this way.
We are all wired for love. We are all wired for acceptance. We are all wired to understand there is something greater than ourselves. It is completely natural to feel anxiety, sadness and jealously because we think that someone else doesn’t understand what is wrong with us. However, let me ensure you that we may want to look at life a bit differently.
First, God wants us to experience His love. The Greek word for this is ‘agape’. It means to be accepted and loved without reservation and limitless. John 3:16 shares this when John says, “God so loved the world, that He gave His only Son, that who ever believes in Him shall have eternal life.” This means that no matter what we think of ourselves, God loves us. No matter what we have done, God loves us. No matter if we think we are unlovable, God loves us. You and I are loved no matter who we are or what we do.
Next, God wants us to experience intimate love with our spouses. A Greek word for this is ‘eros’. However, in Ephesians 5:25, we see “Husbands love (agape) your wives as Christ loves (agape) the church”. Eros is a sexual love between a man and a woman in marriage. This is expressed throughout the Bible. We see in Genesis “A man is to be united with his wife and the two shall become one flesh”. We see this in Song of Solomon. We see this when Paul talks about marriage between a man and a woman.
Men we are not only to desire our wives sexually but we are to have a love that is unconditional and limitless. We are to love our wives as Christ loves His church.
Finally, God wants us to experience ‘philia’ or brotherly love. This means a mutual love for each other as if we are brothers and sisters. We are to care for each other in this regard. Throughout Paul’s letters to the churches and Timothy (Paul’s apprentice), Paul expresses this type of love when He says, “There is one body and one Spirit…” Paul also says, “Greet each other with brotherly love”. Without this type of love our lives are purposeless. Without this type of love, we have no sense of why we are here. Without this type of love, we cannot experience the fullness of what God desires for us.
We all need love. The misfits wanted love (agape). All the misfits wanted was for Santa to find children that would love them without condition. We all desire this love. We can be content with this type of love from God, however, God will place another desire in our hearts, brotherly love. We may not all experience ‘eros’ but we should all experience ‘agape’ and ‘philia’. If we feel that our lives are filled with problems, sickness and error, we need to accept the fact that we are loved by God.
Not only does God love you, but I do as well. If you want prayer for this, contact me and let me know. I will not make these requests public, but I want you to know that I love you so much that I am willing to speak to God with you and for you. My heart’s desire is to show the love of Christ to people. If you don’t have a request, then just pray for the next 30 days and say, “God show me you love me”. Then pick up a Bible and read the book of John. It is the fourth book in the New Testament. It shows us how much God loves us and what love Jesus had when He gave His life for us.
Don’t waste time wondering about who loves you and why. Just accept the realization that God and I love you. I look forward to hearing from you. God Bless and encourage someone today.